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Killed in a duel with Henry Louis Debonair.

From NCpedia:

One of Henry's best friends at New Bern was a Princeton classmate, Thomas Turner Stanly (1789–1813), the youngest son of John Wright Stanly, who was studying law with his oldest brother, John Stanly, a state legislator and former congressman. Edward Graham had been John Stanly's second in the 1802 political duel at New Bern when former Governor Richard Dobbs Spaight, Sr., was fatally wounded.

At a party in the home of William Gaston, Thomas Stanly wanted to attract the attention of Lucy Hawkins, a visitor from Warren County, who was with Henry on the other side of the tea table. Picking up a small piece of cake, Stanly flipped it across the table and it fell into a cup of tea. Some of the liquid splashed on Henry's vest. The lady exclaimed, "Do you stand that?" Henry took her question seriously and challenged Stanly to a duel.

The pistol duel took place Sunday afternoon, 14 Feb. 1813, a few miles south of Suffolk, Va. Stanly's second was his eighteen-year-old first cousin, George E. Badger, who became a Superior Court judge, secretary of the navy, and U.S. senator. On the first fire Stanly was killed instantly by a shot in his right side. Henry lost a finger on his left hand in the duel. He fled to New York but, without threat of prosecution, returned to North Carolina and practiced law at Fayetteville. It is reported that for the rest of his life he never would sleep alone in an unlighted room, perhaps in fear that Stanly's ghost would come to haunt him or that a Stanly relative or friend might seek revenge.